Day 19, Week 3: RYM Chapter 15

"Opening the Windows of Heaven"

 

but first Restored Marriage Testimonies

taken from

 

Praise God from the Mountaintops!

It is time to shout from the mountaintop! How great and awesome is our Lord God! No one (no one of this world, that is) would have believed that my husband would come home! I made so many mistakes in the four and a half years he was with the OW (I didn't even know about her for the first three years). I drove him to her each time I was disobedient to God, until I got serious with Him.

For the first year and a half, my husband would stay out all night, or not come home for two days. I would yell and scream at him when he was at home. After a year and a half, our six-year-old son and I moved out of our wretched house away from that "horrible man"! FIRST HUGE mistake! With the anger wall up in him, we saw little of my husband. However, I was seeking the Lord.

Praise God, He did not allow the divorce my husband said he wanted. It gave me time to grow and to learn over these past years about Satan's little "circumstantial" schemes. I began recognizing them left and right. I guess the worst one was when my husband returned home (for the first time) and within two months was back with his long-term OW. He said she forgave him for his casual affair, while I had not.

The pain and despair were awful. I got to work with God quickly; the Holy Spirit woke me up at 6 a.m. one morning saying, "Trust Me, just trust Me." There was NO turning back. The Holy Spirit let me know that I had to seek the Lord with all my heart and ask God to sustain in me a spirit of obedience. Yes, I had to change! God would take care of my husband. I had to pray and allow the Lord to work through me.

Then one night I was going through the Spiritual Warfare Ministries website (the Holy Spirit had made clear to me that I was entering spiritual warfare in praying for my husband). I began searching for other sites and in my search a series of sites came up with the letter "f" even though I asked for an "s" search. Well there were about 100 sites and I scrolled down to find "First Jesus" and decided to click on that. I then saw "prayer requests," and I clicked on that. I began reading them and noticed there were some for marriages. For some reason (of course the H.S.) I decided to scroll back and look at requests made on my wedding anniversary; I found one on that date asking for prayer for her marriage. Since the email address was listed, I decided to write to this person and tell her I was praying for her and tell her about another marriage restoration site. She wrote me back telling me about Restore Ministries. WOW! When I went to RMI, I devoured the information and KNEW it was God telling me to take the next step—He doesn't overwhelm us and I was now ready to follow the principles and guidelines based on Scriptural principles. I got the RYM book and A Wise Woman too.

I began to see all my terrible mistakes, but, at the same time, I was also learning how to see through circumstantial illusion, a tactic so often successfully used by Satan. For the next eight months, I did the following:

I prayed unceasingly,

I sought God's will on everything,

I fired my attorney,

I gave back my husband's support checks,

I asked for his forgiveness,

I asked him for nothing,

I never again burdened my husband with my needs,

I gave him my tax return with the option of amending my return to file together,

I gave him space,

I didn't call (unless he called first),

I helped him through the terrible and tragic illness and death of his father,

I suggest he visit our son convenient to his schedule (as long as it didn't contradict what my husband had already offered to do), and

I opened our home as a place for him to move.

These steps began the process of tearing down his hate wall and helping him to trust me again. During the whole time, the Lord kept bringing more and more believers and prayer partners into my life! AWESOME!

Five months later, the Holy Spirit told me that my husband would be home suddenly and unsaved. I didn't know when, though. He came home suddenly and unsaved eight months from when I had made my changes. God allowed him to return in this way, unsaved, for a reason; I am still praying unceasingly and seeking His will for my life and the lives of my son and husband. I believe, just as I believed my husband would come home, that God will bring him to salvation! To believe anything else would contradict the laws at work.

You are right Erin, that RIGHT before your miracle, Satan tries to pull out all stops! When my father-in-law died, my husband sent our son and me away to "be alone." The pain was incredible—it "looked" like he would choose the OW since he was living with her since his dad died but that was God forcing them together (no respite at his dad's house, though, since it got hit by lightening—no electricity!!). God knew what he was doing when he went to live there with her. The woman who helped me through all this kept telling me that God was allowing these things—yes, I had to trust God. The lesson for me was about TRUST. Prayer changes everything, for God has called us to love deeply, no matter HOW MUCH it hurts!!! I will NEVER give to Satan my husband's soul!!

To the world, it looks like the law of the impossible, but to those who believe and trust in God, we know that it is the only Truth! NOTHING is impossible with God!

I praise You, sweet Lord, with ALL my being. Not because You brought my husband home, but because I love You. You changed me and made my life whole, meaningful, filled with love and compassion.

Our son is going to a Christian school and my husband is even paying the tuition! Our son will forever be a firm believer in his generation! He has seen the mighty power of the hand of God! He believed, prayed with me, and loves the Lord with all his heart.

God is truly so awesome! It makes we wonder how I could have left Him out of my life for so very long indeed….

Praise You, Lord Jesus Christ! Grace and peace to you, fellow brothers and sisters; keep believing, keep trusting, keep obeying! God is awesome!

God Restores Another Impossible Marriage!

My husband left in January with a very hostile and angry attitude. He was cold and seemed to hate me. It hurt like I never imagined I would hurt. I was a Christian, but was not as close to the Lord as I needed to be. Our marriage had been in trouble for a while. We were too far gone to recover, even though I wanted it with all my heart.

Lots of damage had been done. The next year proved to be the coldest of my life. He would not tell me his exact location, only the city where he was living. I had to call his mom if I wanted to talk to him. She would call and relay messages. He would take his time returning calls, all the while being as cold as ice.

This treatment continued for a year. He would come and visit, but was withdrawn, cold and bitter. He didn’t seem at all as if he wanted things to work. After a year of torture and postponing the divorce, he decided (with persistence from me) that he would drop the divorce and come home. He still was distant, and things were very tense, not at all like a reunion or “making up” should be.

He continued to work two jobs (out of town) and only came home on Sunday afternoons. He would leave on Monday afternoons. I finally quit my job and moved to where he was, but it still wasn’t the fairy tale ending I hoped and longed for. He became more and more bitter, hostile, cold and distant.

After a while, I started to piece things together. To make a long story short, I caught him with the other woman. He still didn’t respond. He left me again. Only now, I had quit my job and left my friends and family to be with him. He would not have anything to do with me. He would not spend the night. This continued for over a month.

I prayed on the phone every night with my parents. Lots of others were praying. I was told by many people to just “give up”, that I could not do anything and it was hopeless. Even Christians! I was raised in a Pentecostal church. My parents had engrained in us, “ask, and you shall receive.” I believed with all my heart, and when it is your heart you can really believe.

I refused to believe that a God who did not condone divorce wanted me to divorce my husband. I believed more strongly than ever. I knew that God answers prayers and that He would answer mine. I knew I was not praying against His will. I knew that the situation was impossible, and my husband’s heart was totally cold. Unless God did it, it would never happen.

I could be here all night if I told you all the details, but the cold treatment I received from this man was beyond my wildest imagination. I was devastated! Approximately one month ago, he came over for the night, and then two nights. The third night, he left and returned for his sunglasses. The OW left a message for me while he and I were out.

He listened to the message, went and got his clothes, and returned to spend the night! The next day, he came home with more clothes. By the end of that week, the OW quit the job they were working together. HE IS HOME!

We are working at restoring our marriage, and I give GOD ALL THE PRAISE FOR IT. IT WAS AN IMPOSSIBLE SITUATION! MY HUSBAND’S HEART OF STONE IS SOFTENING, AND I SEE EVERY DAY THE MIRACLE OF GOD! I REFUSED TO GIVE UP. ASK AND YOU SHALL RECEIVE. GOD IS IN THE MIRACLE-WORKING BUSINESS. THE SAME GOD WHO TURNED WATER INTO WINE, WALKED ON WATER AND RAISED DEAD PEOPLE, CAN STILL PERFORM MIRACLES TODAY.

I DO NOT UNDERSTAND WHY CHRISTIANS DON’T EARNESTLY SEEK AND ASK GOD FOR MORE MIRACLES. THE WORDS AND PAGES OF THIS COMPUTER CANNOT BEGIN TO EXPRESS OR HOLD THE JOY THAT MY ANSWERED PRAYER HAS BROUGHT ME. PRAISE GOD! HE IS AWESOME!

This testimony was submitted by a woman who was not a part of our ministry’s fellowship; therefore, I contacted her because I was concerned that there were changes in her that needed to be made or she would soon jeopardize her restored marriage.

We are receiving many cries for help from women whose husbands have returned home but are leaving again or asking them to leave. This is a premature restoration. It shows that God WILL answer your prayers, but if you are not changed, then the same sins that beset you which caused your husband to leave will be the cause of the restoration falling apart.

Your restoration date is on His calendar, ready or not. Make sure that you use your time wisely to give glory to God.

God Turns the Heart and Restoration Follows!

My precious sisters and brothers in Christ, we have an awesome God! He has changed and molded me so much since I started to believe for my marriage. It is unbelievable!

I am a full-time housewife now, enjoying making our home neat and preparing it to meet my darling husband when he returns home. I plan cooking extensively, and plan on his favorite dishes. Since I was brought up in the fire of the women’s liberation movement, this was something I never thought I would be doing, much less talk of enjoying it.

My sweetest darling came home! I am rejoicing in his decision, and I thank our heavenly Father that He has restored our marriage (there is still a lot to do)! My husband has not confessed to the OW, and we have not cleared all the basics, but I know that will happen in God’s time.

Thanks for this ministry and this website and all the praise reports. They have strengthened me so much in the hours when the enemy was throwing fiery darts at me. However, thanks to the Sword of the Spirit, the Word of God, also manifested through this website, “All will work together for good for those who love the Lord and are chosen according to his purpose.” Praise the Lord, as we believe, praise His holy name!

Amen!

Praise the Lord!! We’re RESTORED!

I just want to praise the Lord as my husband moved back home last week, after a year of separation. I hadn’t seen any changes, or even seen him in a month. He came by to visit on Sunday evening, came back Monday night and slept on the couch. On Tuesday afternoon, when I got home from work, he was there.

He asked if I would take him back! Praise the Lord! He is so faithful! Even when I kept stumbling and lacked faith, He didn’t give up on me. I know we have a long way to go, but the Lord is with us. Praise the Lord!

Restoration in West Virginia!!

Please send me another How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage book. I gave away my last copy and I know yet another lady who needs one. The other lady I gave the book to is RIGHT NOW in church with her husband!!! His adultery is over!! She told me their life is now BETTER than before!! This is AMAZING—only through the LORD could this have happened!! God is WONDERFUL!!

Restored!! God’s Power Will Heal ANY Marriage!!!

I wanted to share with all of you the power of praying for the other woman (or man). My marriage has recently been restored!!

It has not been an easy road. After my husband had been home for almost a month, I found out by accident that he had not totally broken it off with the other woman, nor had he told her that he had moved home. Although he had moved out of her home, she had no idea that he had come back to me.

When I found out, God gave me the peace and wisdom to deal with the situation with a quiet and gentle spirit! My husband seemed almost relieved that the whole truth was finally out. Now all he had to do was tell the other woman that it was truly over. This was something that he had not been able to do for four weeks, but he now had the conviction that he needed to do it.

As we expected, she did not take it well. I immediately got a very hateful and hurtful email from her detailing all the times in the previous few weeks that she had been intimate with my husband. Even though I told myself to be prepared for something like this, it still just took the breath out of me and continues to haunt me at times. [Seek God’s protection by deleting such messages as soon as any harmful content is discovered. “For it is a shame to even speak of those things which are done of them in secret” (Ephesians 5:12).]

The part of this story that requires praise is the second email I got from her. (All through this I had been MAKING myself pray for her. It was not easy, and I didn’t want to do it, but I knew I had to.) A couple of days after the first email, I got a second email from her. The tone was totally different from the first email. She was repentant!!

She said that she knew what she had done was wrong and she asked for my forgiveness!!! She said that she could not believe that she had turned into the kind of woman that she had always hated and that she had always feared would interfere in her own marriage. Her heart had changed!!!

I believe that God is going to restore her marriage, too!!! I believe that he is going to bring this woman to salvation!! I also believe that had others and I not prayed for her, she would have continued to torment my husband and me as we try to put this marriage back on solid ground.

Please pray for the woman or man who is in an adulterous relationship with your husband. God is powerful!!! He will do things that you never dreamed He would do and in the process bring great healing to your heart!!

Restored, Miracles and Healing Wounds!

My marriage has been restored for several months. The Lord did not stop with the restoration; as I apply Scripture and Biblical principles and obey God and His Word, I daily see God changing and molding me! He has done wonderful miracles, both small and big, which appear constantly within our previously wounded family.

I prayed that I would hear my husband tell me that he loved me, with the tenderness he once showed, and now he tells me, and shows me, his love each and every day!! I prayed that God would return my husband to the “wife of his youth” and over and over again my husband tells me that he feels he has his bride back again!!

We have never been happier!!! Last night we went for a bite to eat after doing our grocery shopping (a big task for a family of eight), and my husband told me that his life couldn’t be better...he was so content and happy!! Then these dear, dear words were said: “I look forward to coming home to you and our children every day now...I look forward to each day and the time we spend together.”

PRAISE GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!

For years and years, I orchestrated our worship and spiritual life. Now, I ask my husband if we will be attending church, and many times he has said “No, not this week.” But God needed to separate me from unhealthy relationships in our church community. I worshiped church, not God. I was a Pharisee and had put myself above my husband...I was the Christian “know-it-all and force-it-all” in our family. Now I wait, with joyful anticipation, for the day that God makes my husband the spiritual leader in our family after He has changed me!

He has answered EVERY one of my prayers, and so He will, of course, answer this prayer as well, in the time that is right for us. In the meantime, I continue in my prayer closet, trusting God and thanking God for the miracle of our restored marriage. Thank you Lord!!

Woke Up to Find Husband Home!

I had no idea when I submitted my praise report last week telling people “not to give up” and that “our miracles could be right around the corner” that mine actually was!! Praise the Lord, my husband had moved out on Saturday morning. Then on Saturday night I was reading a book that said “if you are in need of a miracle in your finances, health or marriage, the only reason you don’t have it is because you haven’t asked for it, believed it and expected it.”

Well, that night I prayed and asked God, fully expecting my miracle to happen in HIS appointed time, then I went to bed. That was 11:15 p.m. Then about 1:30 a.m., I was awakened by my husband standing beside the bed. He said, “Do you want me to come home?” I said, “Yes!” and then laughed. He asked what I was laughing about. I said, “YOU WOULD NOT BELIEVE the dream I just had.” Then I explained to him that I had dreamt that he was coming home.

Then he said he was tired of going against God and wanted to come home and give it his best effort!!!

We may have a long way to go, but praise the Lord, my husband WANTS to be HERE and is willing to try!!

Please pray for us as we are still in a very vulnerable position and Satan doesn’t give up easily. I give Him ALL the praise, as I would NOT have been able to handle this without Him. I know it is His will and He alone can heal this marriage. I only want His will for my marriage and my life. I praise Him and thank Him.

Thank you and your ministry!! Your books and this site have been such a blessing to me during this time! God has done such a work in me and I hope that it will continue.

Restored After Two Years of Separation and a Divorce!

My husband and I were separated two years ago and going through rough times long before then. Financial problems made me bitter and resentful toward my husband. I was not a Christian and he was. That bitterness and anger opened a door for Satan to come in and rob us of our family. We have 13 and 12-year-old sons. My eyes were blinded and my heart was stone cold. I hurt my husband severely, and with a smile on my face! I asked him to leave the house without considering the consequences, listening to advice from non-Christians who would tell me “Just throw him out; things will never change.”

After he was forced to find an apartment the devil began to attack his faith (he had prayed for me to be saved during our 15 years of our marriage). He began to go out with friends and stray away.

With my anger and hard heart I pushed for a divorce just to prove that no one could treat me this way. I didn’t think about what the true effects would be on our sons. My mother-in-law prayed for us daily and asked that the doors would be closed on the upcoming court date. I still went to court wondering what was going to stop me.

When I got to the courthouse no one was sitting in the section that I was assigned to. I asked a deputy and he informed me that the judge was out of town (no one had told me) and all the petitions had been moved to another court. My name was not on the list. Then my attorney was late but I still insisted on waiting. When he arrived he informed me that there was a problem. The courts had stamped the wrong child support court numbers on my documents. I still insisted that we continue. He searched for a stand-in judge to take my oath at that time. She said she would not touch my case. I still pushed and he found another judge who did swear me in. It says, “Let no man separate” but I had! That was the most horrible mistake I have made in my entire life (I’m 41).

Then as I began to learn about the Word I realized how I allowed the devil to come in and lie to me. I began to fight for my family. I prayed daily and wanted to quit numerous times. Then when what I did to him turned around on me I knew how awful it felt. I repented and asked God for forgiveness and began to seek his Word. This storm caused me to change my direction. It was a long and painful struggle as I was a baby Christian. God held me through all the hurt and I continued to go to church even when things were at their worst.

If anyone had seen how bad things were at that time, and saw us now, they would know this is a MIRACLE! We could not even face each other or speak without lashing out or trying to hurt each other. If it were not for God and other people and family praying for me in prayer groups, I would not have been strong enough to be here today.

One day I asked God to show me when my family would be restored. I had a dream that told me to circle a date on the calendar the following week. I woke up and thought “That’s just a couple of days; that can’t be my answer.” (I still did not know that God can work a miracle instantly!!)

I asked God again the following night and the next morning my husband pulled up in our driveway before I left for work. (For an entire year and a half he would make sure I had left before he came over to get the boys ready for school.) When I heard his truck pull in our driveway I knew instantly that God heard my cries.

We are now happier then we ever were in our first 15 years!!! Our wedding is next week and we will have our sons stand beside us to reclaim what the devil stole from us. Praise the Lord. A co-worker is going through a very similar situation. I asked God to guide me with the words to help her. I forwarded her your website today and will continue to pray for her. Thank you!

Divorce Dismissed Day Before Hearing—Marriage Restored!!

My divorce was to be final on April 19, but my husband had it dismissed on the 18th!!! God works in just the right time, even when I thought it was hopeless and wanted to give up. I kept going back again and again to Erin’s book, and praying.

I finally gave up and trusted God to do what I could not do for myself. My husband moved back home and we are sharing what we have learned with others. I have had the opportunity to start a small group in my church and have given books to anyone who has shared with me that they too are going through separation or divorce.

I have something to offer someone else only through the grace of God. I have made friends through this site and hope to one day be able to give as much as I have been given and blessed with.

Through the hard work and determination of Erin, this experience has truly changed my life!! It has restored and changed my marriage into what God intended for us to have, not another divorce statistic!!!

I have only love and utter gratefulness that this site was there for me when there was no other solution to what I believed to be a hopeless situation. I am reminded every day of the promise He has kept that shows the LOVE my God has for me!!!

ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE THROUGH CHRIST. This means your marriage too!!! God bless you and thank you!!!!!

God Did Bring My Husband Home!

God revealed to me this morning, as I sat weeping over the events that are taking place right now in my marriage, that I do, in fact, have a lot to praise Him for. I had been praying for two years that God would bring my husband home (he has lived in other states since we first married 2 years ago).

Glory to God, he is going to church services and functions with me and is heavily involved in remodeling our home. As I sit and think, God has been so faithful but my eyes have been blinded by the events that are still happening (the OW calling our house, etc.). The enemy has blinded my eyes so that I could not see the goodness of God!!!

I had promised my Lord and Savior that I would praise Him from the rooftops for His greatness and His faithfulness in all of this. I want to begin right now giving Him the glory even when things aren’t yet completed, for I KNOW that they will be!!

Thank you, Restore Ministries, for your Scriptural guidance and prayers!!! It is funny how God kept telling me a lot of your principles that you speak of in your books long before I ever read them. People told me that I was crazy. I thought I was crazy at times, too. I know that God divinely led my path to meet yours, Erin. He brought me to this ministry right when I needed it most. My God is SO Faithful!!!

Glory to GOD. Thank you, Jesus, for you are faithful!!!!

 

— Chapter 15 —

Opening the

Windows of Heaven

“Test Me now in this,” says the Lord of hosts,

“if I will not open for you the windows of heaven,

and pour out for you a blessing until it overflows.”

—Malachi 3:10


 

This is a pretty powerful statement from God. Nowhere else in Scripture does God tell us to test Him, except in this verse. What is it that God says will cause Him to open the windows of heaven, pouring out His blessing on us until it overflows?

“‘Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, so that there may be food in My house, and test Me now in this,’ says the Lord of hosts, ‘if I will not open for you the windows of heaven, and pour out for you a blessing until it overflows’” (Mal. 3:10).

Did you see it? It’s tithing. Tithing will cause God to open the windows of heaven and shower His blessings over your life!

Many Christians shy away from learning as much as they can about this important principle, but please don’t miss this! God wants us to be faithful and obedient in all things, and when we neglect or choose to be disobedient in one area of our lives, it spills over into other areas as well.

What exactly is tithing? It is giving back to God ten percent of the first of your increase.

Our society as a whole is ignorant of this principle. Many churches fail their people by neglecting to teach the importance of tithing. Why is it so serious? God is angry when we fail to give back to Him what is rightfully His. “The earth is the Lord’s, and all it contains, the world, and those who dwell in it” (Ps. 24:1). Tithing is an act of worship.

There are too many Christians who either live in poverty or are in as much debt as the unbeliever. God wants to make every believer “the head and not the tail.” He wants you to be “above” and “not be underneath” debt or anything else that will rule or control your life (Deut. 28:13). We are told, “Owe nothing to anyone except to love one another . . .” (Rom. 13:8). “The rich rules over the poor, and the borrower becomes the lender’s slave” (Prov. 22:7).

Most Christians are blessed with so much, especially if we look at other nations and the level of poverty at which most people of the world live. We spend our earnings on pleasures while our churches, missionaries, and ministries struggle to make ends meet. Why? Because we try to hold onto what is not rightfully ours to keep.

We take but give little. “Now this I say, he who sows sparingly shall also reap sparingly; and he who sows bountifully shall also reap bountifully. Let each one do just as he has purposed in his heart, not grudgingly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver” (2 Cor. 9:6).

We ask and wonder why we don’t receive. “You ask and do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, so that you may spend it on your pleasures” (James 4:3).

God wanted to bless His people, but He did not because they were unwilling to give into His storehouse. He tells them in Haggai 1:6–7, “‘You have sown much, but harvest little; you eat, but there is not enough to be satisfied; you drink, but there is not enough to become drunk; you put on clothing, but no one is warm enough; and he who earns, earns wages to put into a purse with holes. Thus says the Lord of hosts, ‘Consider your ways!’”

“‘You look for much, but behold, it comes to little; when you bring it home, I blow it away. Why?’ declares the Lord of hosts, ‘Because of My house which lies desolate, while each of you runs to his own house’” (Hag. 1:9).

 

Understanding Tithing

It is ironic that so many Christians erroneously believe that they are not able to “afford” to tithe and bless God through offerings. The truth is that they are simply caught in a vicious cycle that only obedience and faith can cure. They can’t afford to give because they rob God to pay men, thereby robbing themselves of being blessed!

As a matter of fact, it is when we are in deep poverty that God asks us to give. The Christians in Macedonia understood and applied this principle of giving: “Out of the most severe trial, their overflowing joy and their extreme poverty welled up in rich generosity” (2 Cor. 8:2). Sounds a bit like many of us, doesn’t it?

Why 10%?

The word tithe in the Hebrew is “ma‘asrah,” which translates to “a tenth.” So whenever God speaks to us in His Word and says to “tithe,” He is saying to give Him a tenth.

Why should I give my tithe first, before paying my bills?

This is the principle of “first fruits” of our labor. Deuteronomy 18:4 tells us, “You shall give him the first fruits of your grain, your new wine, and your oil, and the first shearing of your sheep.” Then, in Exodus 34:24 and 26, God says, “For I will drive out nations before you and enlarge your borders . . . You shall bring the very first of the first fruits of your soil into the house of the Lord your God . . .”

This also is confirmed in the New Testament when Jesus tells us in Matthew 6:33, “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added to you.”

Where should I tithe?

Malachi 3:10 tells us, “‘Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, so that there may be food in My house, and test Me now in this,’ says the Lord of hosts, ‘if I will not open for you the windows of heaven, and pour out for you a blessing until it overflows.’”

Your storehouse is where you are spiritually fed. Many Christians make the mistake of giving where they are not spiritually fed or would rather give where they see there is a need—but this is foolishness. It is like going to a restaurant, ordering a meal, but when the check comes telling the cashier that you would rather give to the restaurant down the street that is not doing too well!

If you are attending a church where you are being spiritually fed, then you should be tithing at least a tenth of your income to your home church. That means that if you attend church elsewhere and feel led to sow financially into our ministry (or any other ministry or missions), then this would be an offering “above and beyond” your tithe. We don’t want you to steal from your church to sow into our ministry “for this would be unprofitable for you” (Heb. 13:17).

However, many of our fellowship members who are not attending a church (for a variety of reasons) and are being fed through our ministry tithe by sowing into restoring marriages, since this is where they are being spiritually fed.

Again, as I have encouraged you throughout this book, seek God. This goes for everything, including your finances. Then be obedient and faithful to Him!

Don’t make the mistake of diligently following all the principles on restoring your marriage yet fail to tithe, lest you find your marriage not restored because you are stealing from God.

Remember, Malachi 3:8–10 tells us, “Will a man rob God? Yet you are robbing Me! But you say, ‘How have we robbed Thee?’ In tithes and offerings. You are cursed with a curse, for you are robbing Me, the whole nation of you!”

But since I am not under the law and I live by grace, 10% is no longer required, is it?

God’s grace warrants giving more, not less. When we have experienced His forgiveness, His mercy, His compassion, and His sacrifice of His shed blood whereby we become partakers of His glory, it will increase our willingness to give more, certainly not less.

“. . . Freely you received, freely give” (Matt. 10:8).

“He who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him over for us all, how will He not also with Him freely give us all things?” (Rom. 8:32).

However, “. . . he who sows bountifully shall also reap bountifully. Let each one do just as he has purposed in his heart, not grudgingly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver” (2 Cor. 9:6).

If we are double-minded and don’t really trust that God will provide for us, “let this man expect that he will receive nothing from the Lord.” When we hold onto what we have to try to take care of ourselves, we will never see God’s awesome power on our behalf.

God’s desire is to pour His power and His blessings into our lives. When we tithe, we are being obedient. When, out of utter gratitude and worship, we freely give offerings beyond what is commanded, we are truly opening the door for God to pour out His blessings and do His pleasure in our lives.

We know He “is able to do exceedingly and abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us” (Eph. 3:20 KJV).

“Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you” (Matt. 6:33 KJV). Do we take God at His Word or not?

 

Principles of Stewardship

As we have seen, tithing is an important principle in the Bible. God expects us to tithe back to Him a portion of what He has so generously given to us. Indeed, all that He has given us is still His—we are stewards that He has entrusted to care for the earth and all that is in it. How we handle what He has entrusted to us—our money, our talents, our time—demonstrates our obedience to His Word, our trust in His promise to provide, and most importantly, our faith in Him.

The way you view and handle your finances is basic to your Christian growth, and understanding God’s principles of stewardship will enable you to mature in your spiritual walk and inherit the blessings God has for your life.

As you have read thus far in this book, God deals with many areas in our lives that indirectly affect our marriage. It is not enough to concentrate on marriage principles exclusively, but again God is using this trial in your marriage to transform you more into His image as He draws you out of the world’s destruction and shows you the pathway to life.

The riches of God are not in order for us to “get rich” in the way the world seeks riches, but instead His blessings are part of our heritage. God wants to prosper us (Jer. 29:11) as long as He knows that we will use our inheritance wisely, without allowing prosperity to bring us to ruin. Giving a car to a child who is too young will most certainly end in tragedy. It is not until a parent sees maturity is he willing to turn over the keys of the car.

God wants us to have a mature attitude toward money for it has the power to affect our ability to make wise decisions: “Two things I asked of You, do not refuse me before I die: keep deception and lies far from me, give me neither poverty nor riches; feed me with the food that is my portion, that I not be full and deny You and say, ‘Who is the Lord?’ Or that I not be in want and steal, and profane the name of my God” (Prov. 30:7–9).

It is clear that it is God’s desire to bless His children. Here are more verses that show God’s heart toward you as one of His:

“It is the blessing of the Lord that makes rich, and He adds no sorrow to it” (Prov. 10:22).

“The reward of humility and the fear of the Lord are riches, honor and life” (Prov. 22:4).

“And by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches” (Prov. 24:4).

“A faithful man will abound with blessings, but he who makes haste to be rich will not go unpunished” (Prov. 28:20).

These verses maintain that there are conditions to financial blessings (spiritual maturity) and that this is truly a heart issue (an absence of greed).

All of us want God’s blessings upon our life, but did you know that how you handle your financial blessings has a great deal to do with how you grow in the Lord and to what degree God is able to work in your life?

“No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will stand by and be devoted to the one and despise and be against the other. You cannot serve God and mammon (deceitful riches, money, possessions, or whatever is trusted in)” (Matt. 6:24 AMP).

“Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much. So if you have not been trustworthy in handling worldly wealth, who will trust you with true riches?” (Luke 16:10–11).

To grow in our ability to be used of God, which is spiritual wealth, and gain the greater things (having the power and presence of God in our lives) depends in part on how we handle our finances.

To prove this further, there are roughly 500 references in the Bible to faith and 500 to prayer, but there are over 2,000 verses that refer to our finances! In addition to the spiritual laws that were set in place when God created the universe (see chapter 1), God has also established financial laws, which He has shared with us in His Word. We benefit from following the laws or suffer the consequences if we don’t. It doesn’t matter if we are ignorant of them or have chosen to reject them; these laws, like gravity, exist and cannot be debated.

Principle #1: We reap what we sow.

One of the most important principles of stewardship is sowing and reaping. To reap a harvest, we must sow seed first. There are many Scriptures that give us insight into the subject of sowing and reaping. Here a just a few:

“Now this I say, he who sows sparingly shall also reap sparingly; and he who sows bountifully shall also reap bountifully” (2 Cor 9:6).

“Those who sow in tears shall reap with joyful shouting” (Ps. 126:5).

“Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap” (Gal. 6:7).

“For the one who sows to his own flesh shall from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit shall from the Spirit reap eternal life”(Gal. 6:8).

“And let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we shall reap if we do not grow weary” (Gal. 6:9).

When we sow with the understanding of this principle and with faith in the Lord and His Word, we should expect to reap a harvest in and where we have sown! This is really exciting!

No farmer would take the time or the money to sow seed if he did not expect to reap a harvest. In addition, if he wanted to reap a harvest of corn, he wouldsow corn. If he wanted to reap wheat, he would sow wheat.

Therefore, if you want to reap kindness, sow kindness. If you want to reap forgiveness, forgive! If you want to reap restoration in your marriage, then sowinto restoration by ministering and/or financially—then anticipate a harvest, since God’s principles and His promises are true and He is faithful!!

We can also believe God’s promise that sowing into His work means we are investing in our eternal future. “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, and where thieves do not break in or steal; where your treasure is, there your heart will be also” (Matt. 6:19–21). More importantly, what we do with money here on earth is a true indicator of where our hearts are.

“Now He who supplies seed to the sower and bread for food will supply and multiply your seed for sowing and increase the harvest of your righteousness; you will be enriched in everything for all liberality, which through us is producing thanksgiving to God” (2 Cor. 9:10–11).

In other words, when God gives us a bountiful harvest, it is not so we can keep it selfishly for ourselves but so we can sow even more into the kingdom of heaven.

The very wealthy Christians of today are the channels that keep ministries going, send missionaries to foreign lands, and keep our churches flourishing so that they can reach the lost for the Lord. They do not use their finances for their own pleasures but have found that in sowing into the things of God they have true joy and contentment.

However, we must also remember that poverty and prosperity are relative terms. What we call the “poverty level” in the United States would seem like affluence to those in many other countries.

As Christians, we must find contentment in any and every situation. The apostle Paul reminds us in Philippians 4:12: “I know how to get along with humble means, and I also know how to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and suffering need.”

Indeed, there are times when God calls His saints to suffering, martyrdom, or poverty (like the poor widow who gave two coins—all she owned) in order to glorify Himself. When He calls us to poverty or suffering, He gives us the grace to bear it with joy and thanksgiving (and without grumbling or complaining).

While we can’t understand all of God’s reasons for allowing poverty, we can trust that His ways are higher than our ways. “Out of the most severe trial, their overflowing joy and their extreme poverty welled up in rich generosity. For I testify that they gave as much as they were able, and even beyond their ability” (2 Cor. 2:8). Sometimes those who suffer the greatest need become the most generous! For someone with a love of money, a loss of riches may be one of the ways God breaks us, draws us to Himself, and teaches us to rely solely on Him.

However, in our country, poverty and debt do not usually draw the interest or attention of your family, friends, and neighbors. If we have been blessed with much, we must witness to others not by self-righteously preaching to them or condemning their lifestyle but by allowing them to “read” God in our lives! “You are our letter, written in our hearts, known and read by all men” (2 Cor. 3:2). We must exhibit the fruits of our Father. We must be at peace in the midst of troubles, bless our enemies, freely forgive, and walk in whatever prosperity the Lord allows. Our generosity should glorify Him and may be the very kindness that God uses to draw others to Himself!

“. . . And let them say continually, ‘The Lord be magnified, who delights in the prosperity of His servant” (Ps. 35:27).

Principle #2: God owns everything.

Psalm 24:1 (NIV) says simply, “The earth is the Lord’s, and everything in it . . .” Everything we have belongs to God.

“Yours, O Lord, is the greatness and the power and the glory and the majesty and the splendor, for everything in heaven and earth is Yours” (1 Chron. 29:11).

“‘The silver is Mine and the gold is Mine,’ declares the Lord Almighty” (Hag. 2:8).

All we have, whether much or little, is on loan to us—we are stewards. Again, it is how we handle what has been entrusted to us (as explained in the Luke 16 parable) that will determine whether He blesses us with more or if He takes away what we already have.

Principle #3: God provides everything.

“Otherwise, you may say in your heart, ‘My power and the strength of my hand made me this wealth.’ But you shall remember the Lord your God, for it is He who is giving you power to make wealth, that He may confirm His covenant which He swore to your fathers, as it is this day. It shall come about if you ever forget the Lord your God and go after other gods and serve them and worship them, I testify against you today that you will surely perish” (Deut. 8:17–19).

“But who am I and who are my people that we should be able to offer as generously as this? For all things come from You, and from Your hand we have given You. For we are sojourners before You, and tenants, as all our fathers were; our days on the earth are like a shadow, and there is no hope. O Lord our God, all this abundance that we have provided to build You a house for Your holy name, it is from Your hand, and all is Yours” (1 Chron. 29:14–16).

“And my God will supply all your needs according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus” (Phil. 4:19).

Whether you earned it in your job or it was given to you, who was the Source of everything that you have? God.

Principle #4: God wants the first portion of what He gives you.

Many Christians give to their church and other charitable organizations but are not blessed because they don’t understand this very important principle. God is clear throughout the entire Bible that He wants to be first in every area of your life.

If you pay your bills before returning the first back to Him, God is not first in your life and you will have missed the blessing. We learned in chapter 5, “First Love,” that God removes from us what we have put ahead of Him. 

“Honor the Lord from your wealth, and from the first of all your produce; so your barns will be filled with plenty, and your vats will overflow with new wine” (Prov. 3:9). The principle is clear; we must give to God first.

Often when Christians begin to consider tithing, they cannot see how they can possibly tithe since they are barely making ends meet. This is because they are also ignorant to what has been happening in their finances. Haggai 1:9 says that God “blows away” what you bring home, and He also allows the devourer to come and take what was rightfully His.

“‘Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, so that there may be food in My house, and test Me now in this,’ says the Lord of hosts, ‘if I will not open for you the windows of heaven, and pour out for you a blessing until it overflows. Then I will rebuke the devourer for you, so that it may not destroy the fruits of the ground; nor will your vine in the field cast its grapes,’ says the Lord of hosts” (Mal. 3:10–11).

Every month non-tithing Christians are met with “unexpected” expenses, things like repairs or other needs they did not foresee. It is only because they are ignorant of this principle. For if God is first in your life—first in your heart, first in your day, and first in your finances—then (and only then) God will “open for you the windows of heaven, pour out for you a blessing until it overflows,” and faithfully “rebuke the devourer for you.”

Those who humble themselves by giving God their tithe and offerings will delight themselves in abundant prosperity! “But the humble will inherit the land, and will delight themselves in abundant prosperity” (Ps. 37:11). His Word tells us, “Adversity pursues sinners, but the righteous will be rewarded with prosperity” (Prov. 13:21).

Principle #5: What you do with the first portion determines what God does with the rest.

When God asked Abraham for His son, he did not withhold him; as a result, God tells him, “for now I know that you fear God, since you have not withheld your son, your only son, from Me . . . because you have done this thing and have not withheld your son, your only son, indeed I will greatly bless you . . .”(Gen. 22:12, 17).

God told the army who took Jericho that they were not to take the spoil of the first city, and God would then give them the rest. God always wants to first to test our hearts. “The refining pot is for silver and the furnace for gold, but the Lord tests hearts” (Prov. 17:3). However, one of the soldiers, Akin, could not resist and took some of the spoil. When they were to take the next city, Ai, in a battle that was much smaller and should have easily been won, they were defeated. (See Joshua 6.)

This principle is not just in your finances, or in your restoration, but in every area of your life. When we fail to give to God first, we are robbing God of what He has asked for. He wants no other gods before Him: not our money, our spouses, our marriages, or our careers. What you do with the first of everything will determine what God will do with the rest—bless it or curse it.

 

Are you in a financial crisis?

“But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you” (Matt. 6:33).

Have you sought the Lord about your finances? In Philippians 4:19, the Bible clearly teaches that the Lord is the One who will supply all our needs. However, if we go to others with our needs rather than seeking the Lord—if we fail to “seek Him first”—then “all these things” will not be “added unto” us.

Are you following the principles for financial security in the Lord? The Scriptures teach us that we are to tithe in order to be “filled with plenty” and “overflow” (Prov. 3:9–10). We are also encouraged to “sow” if we want to reap (Gal. 6:7 and 2 Cor. 9:6). Have you been sowing and faithfully tithing? Take the time to read these passages of Scripture again and again, then pray for how the Lord wants to change the way that you are trusting Him while fulfilling His command to all believers, beginning by giving a portion back to Him.

If you are tithing faithfully and still in a financial crisis, make sure that you are following all of God’s statutes. There are many references in Scripture to actions that lead to poverty, including not asking (James 4:2), asking with wrong motive (James 4:3), adultery (Prov. 6:26), heavy drinking or gluttonous behavior (Prov. 21:17, Prov. 23:21), laziness (Prov. 10:4, Prov. 14:23, Prov. 28:18–20), not accepting rebuke or correction (Prov. 13:18), making hasty decisions (Prov. 21:5), oppressing the poor (Prov. 22:16), and, of course, withholding from God what is rightfully His.

While we are giving back to God in tithes and offerings, we also need to be sure we are giving our husbands the honor they deserve. “The heart of her husband safely trusts in her; so he will have no lack of gain” (Prov. 31:11). If your husband has had a difficult time providing, are you sure he can trust you? Has he told you to get rid of your credit cards, but you kept them? Are you responsible with the purchases you make, and do you look well to the ways of your household? Have you shamed him to others? Be sure you are pure in heart and faithful to your husband in every way.

When I was in financial ruin as a single mother of four young children, I learned the principle of tithing. Even though I lived close to poverty level, I began tithing for the first time in my life. Not only did I sow by tithing ten percent of the meager amount of the money I received, but I also sowed into the lives of women who were experiencing tragedy in their lives (telling them about God’s ability to restore their marriages).

My giving to the Lord set the standard in our home when my husband was gone. God honored this by leading my husband to tithe soon after he came home without my telling him! If you are struggling with giving that much, it may help you to know that God owns everything we have, and it is only because of Him that we have been given the “power to make wealth, that He may confirm His covenant” with us. (Deut. 8:18). Therefore you need to make sure that you give to Him first to confirm that He is first in your life!

 

Will you serve God or mammon (money)?

Too many shy away from teaching on giving because of the abuses and because they don’t want to be considered “money seekers,” but it doesn’t eliminate the truth in the message. Search for the truth yourself. Test Him to see if He is faithful to His promise. Give to God first, tithe to your storehouse (where you are spiritually fed), and see if your life changes and you are blessed in all areas of your life.

God is the one who provides for our ministry and for our family. We sow into the lives of those who are brokenhearted and water with ongoing support through our fellowship, but it is God who brings the increase. We look to no one to supply our needs but God alone.

Failing to properly teach such an important principle would be to neglect to feed the sheep and shepherd those who are coming to us for help, support, and direction.

Jesus said to feed His sheep, and God said in Hosea that His people perished for a lack of knowledge (Hosea 4:6). Many who come to us are new Christians or have been attending a church where this principle, and other principles of restoration, is not taught. Our job is to make disciples of the Lord, to give them the tools they need to transform their lives.

For those of you who have never given God His tithe, may God prove to you that you can do more with 90% of your income than the 100% that you used to control. It will take a step of faith, but just like when you chose to restore your marriage rather than moving on, your life will never be the same.

For those of you who do give (but God is not first), may you rearrange your priorities in every area of your life to show God that He has first place.

God is a God who longs to be gracious to us; He longs to bless us!

“. . . And let them say continually, “the Lord be magnified, who delights in the prosperity of His servant” (Ps. 35:27).

Let me close with this wonderful promise: “Those who sow in tears shall reap with joyful shouting” (Ps. 126:5). Hallelujah!!

Personal commitment: to give. “Based on what I have learned in Scripture, I commit to trusting and blessing the Lord with my finances. I will seek the Lord regarding how and where to tithe. I will sow into restoring marriages through sharing the good news about restoration with those whom God brings into my life and through my financial giving as God leads and faithfully provides for me.”

Your New Storehouse

Our goal is to train each and every woman to learn the principles that are not being taught in the church. To Encourage women to temporarily LET GO of their church and realize they can be the LIFE-LINE by bringing the truth back to their church by completing our courses AND becoming a RMM "Restored Marriage Minister" or "Registered Marriage Minister."

The added bonus to you stepping forward in faith and begin tithing to your NEW storehouse, RMIEW, is that this will help your RMM "Restored Marriage Minister" or "Registered Marriage Minister" devote more time and become a FULL TIME Minister.

Each tithe or donation made by a Client or Team Member, the ministry's tithe goes to our Team Ministers. And the farther you go, the more improved you are, is a reflection on your ministers who are compensated.

This is our way of Encouraging both the ministers to minister more effectively and for clients/members to do their very best—a win, win, win situation—with RESTORATION waiting at the finish line!




Why is RMI so adamant that we tithe?

Because in Haggai 1:9 says that God “blows away” what you bring home:

"'You look for much, but behold, it comes to little; when you bring it home, I blow it away. Why?” declares the LORD of hosts, 'Because of My house which lies desolate, while each of you runs to his own house'"— Haggai 1:9

And He also says, that not tithing allows the devourer come and take what was rightfully his unless we tithe to our STOREHOUSE, which means where we are "spiritually" fed.

“‘Bring the whole tithe into the STOREHOUSE, so that there may be food in My house, and test Me now in this,’ says the Lord of hosts, ‘if I will not open for you the windows of heaven, and pour out for you a blessing until it overflows. THEN I will rebuke the devourer for you, so that it may not destroy the fruits of the ground; nor will your vine in the field cast its grapes,’ says the Lord of hosts”—Malachi 3:10–11

Does it matter how much or how little I make?

No. Even if you're not working and only a tiny comes "IN" to your household, it's INcome. And if you are faithful in the little things, He will soon see you are responsible enough to handle MORE, as the principle in this Parable Jesus taught explains:

Luke 19:16-30 Contemporary English Version (CEV)

The first servant came and said, “Sir, with the money you gave me I have earned ten times as much.”

“That’s fine, my good servant!” the king said. “Since you have shown that you can be trusted with a small amount, you will be given ten cities to rule.”

The second one came and said, “Sir, with the money you gave me, I have earned five times as much.”

The king said, “You will be given five cities.”

Another servant came and said, “Sir, here is your money. I kept it safe in a handkerchief. You are a hard man, and I was afraid of you. You take what isn’t yours, and you harvest crops you didn’t plant.”

“You worthless servant!” the king told him. “You have condemned yourself by what you have just said. You knew that I am a hard man, taking what isn’t mine and harvesting what I’ve not planted. 23 Why didn’t you put my money in the bank? On my return, I could have had the money together with interest.”

Then he said to some other servants standing there, “Take the money away from him and give it to the servant who earned ten times as much.”

But they said, “Sir, he already has ten times as much!”

The king replied, “Those who have something will be given more. But everything will be taken away from those who have mismanaged what was given to him."

Spiritual Milestone



Today's lesson is your 1st Spiritual Milestone.

What holds most of us back from achieving anything worthwhile is FEAR. So to achieve this and all the upcoming milestones, we've marked each for you so you can hurdle over them during your spiritual race. 

1 Corinthians 9:24

Do you not know that those who run in a race all run, but only one receives the prize? Run in such a way that you may win.

Today you'll need to draw on the Lord's strength to leap over the FEAR of giving GOD control of your finances. He asks us to TEST Him in this one area of our lives, will you listen?

“But prove yourselves doers of the Word, and not merely hearers who delude themselves…not having become a forgetful hearer but an effectual doer, this man shall be blessed in what he does.” James 1:22,25

“Why do you call me Lord and not do what I say?” Luke 6:46.

Their GONE

Interestingly, but not surprisingly, over the course of ministering I have witnessed that those who learn the principle of tithing to their storehouse and who fail to tithe, God faithfully does what His principles were set up to do. The devourer comes in and they are soon GONE. They usually give up on restoration because they never move ahead. The blessing God gives them is stolen again, just like their husbands and marriages and their lives were, when they came looking for us.

And what we share with women who tithe for the first time, we assure them:

RMIEW does not NEED your money because, as a ministry, we tithe and so do all our ministers. The only reason we encourage you to tithe to your true storehouse is for YOU. It's YOUR opportunity to get the protection you need right now, to have the devourer rebuked, so please don't let fear or anything else prevent you from your abundant life. If you are not experiencing a full restoration, even though you are following all the other principles, not tithing to your correct storehouse may be why.

So, if you are blessed enough to move on, without tithing right now, we also have witnessed that for some of our clients, the Lord patiently waits until we share a second, much more comprehensive, lesson in our RRR "Renewing Your Mind" Course 2. However, if you do fall away, please remember this principle of tithing no matter where you are. It will allow you to recover what you've had and gain His protection— which every Christian needs! :)


Honestly, Do the Principles in this Lesson Really Work?

"Your testimonies also are my delight;

They are my counselors"—Psalm 119:24


Submitted by: Shannon in Ohio; A Divorced has been Filed, I’ve taken or am currently taking the Rebuilding Wisdom Course.

"I Owe Nothing"

I want to share my praise report. Before, I did not know how important it was to tithe 10% to God. I must admit, I was guilty of spending my money on "other necessities" and whatever was left I would donate as a tithe as I thought some was better than none right? Since my journey, I have started tithing and God has been so faithful.

My daughter and I had just dropped my mother off at her residence and when I attempted to back up my vehicle out of the parking space, it would not go. When I attempted to move forward, my vehicle would not go. All of a sudden I heard a horrific grinding noise and the front of my vehicle shook and it felt like something had fallen onto the ground from under the hood. I turned the vehicle off and a relative came to look at it. He started my vehicle, put it in reverse and it worked again. He test drove it for a while and said it seems fine. Needless to say, I was confused while he was smirking at me. Just to be safe I went ahead and scheduled an appointment with a transmission shop.

When I went to the shop to find out the news of what was wrong and how much it was going to cost as I have no money, I was told nothing wrong could be found. In fact I was told for the age of my vehicle, the transmission and casing are in great shape!! But wait, there is another blessing. When I asked how much do I owe, I was told nothing. I wanted to cry.

Praise the Lord!!! ~Shannon in Ohio